The Love Hate Relationship With Back To School

Kids are going back to school! Or if you are some people, you have already gone back as teachers or have already sent your kids back…maybe you homeschool and you start and end during public school times so you’re back on again, whatever the case is, August seems to be “that time of year again” for a lot of us.  This week for Tuesday Ten, Rabia and Lisa have us sharing 10 things we love or hate about back to school.  It’s so funny that just this past week I took you all back to my old beliefs and ways of thinking as a child.  I think I’m going to use this post to stay within that same vein.  Based on the title, you probably guessed I am going to share a little bit of both.  Here is my love hate relationship I had with back to school:

 

Things I hated:

 

I never looked forward to drama.  When drama would arise for whatever reason, it was never fun to deal with.  I hated that after a certain amount of time, that being in school that year would become boring or tiresome.  This didn’t happen so much when I was very young, but at a certain point, especially as I got older, we would start to look forward to breaks and summer vacation.  Not understanding a specific topic in class with a teacher that didn’t help me understand any better.  This isn’t something that happened to me often, thankfully.  Initially, this was never fun or exciting.  I can’t think of a time when I didn’t get pass these obstacles eventually, but going through it wasn’t something I ever looked forward to about school.  Not seeing my mom and having a connection with her.  I don’t think I was ever that close with my mom.  It’s one of the reasons I’ve become so determined and passionate about teaching and homeschooling my own children.  I hated it then and even now that my friends and people around me in school influenced me so much.  I wasn’t as confident in being different and standing for what I knew what was right.  I joined in the crowd on lots of things and did what was cool in other situations.  Though I was an honor student and very active, I hated this about going to school- you know, wanting to fit in…..

 

Dear Mom
 

 

My love list:

I loved very much that school was starting.  By the time the summer was about to end, I think for the most part, most years, I was more than ready for change and to head back to school.  The cool breeze that would suddenly be in the air right around mid August that was a sign that it was just about that time.  I grew up in New Jersey near the beach so fall made it known to us that it was coming very soon each year around this time.  The idea of getting brand new clothes and shoes to start the school year off.  My mom was very into fashion and clothes so my brother and I got it very honest.  It’s funny because the schools now in the town I grew up in make all the kids wear uniforms.  I couldn’t wait to learn.  As you all might be able to tell in the types of things I share, I am always hungry to learn new things.  This was no different when I was growing up.  I looked forward to this each year when school was about to start.  Getting to see my friends everyday.  Typically, I wouldn’t be able to see people as much because we didn’t drive and it was probably a far distance to get to them even if I was going to walk.  Especially once we got to high school, it was nice being able to see my friends in class, in between classes and at parties or school events.

 

The Love Hate Relationship With Back To School
 

Linking up with:

 

The Liebers
 

 

What do you love or hate about back to school?  You can tell me what you thought back then or even right now. :)

XoXo,

 

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30 comments

  • Agreed with so much of your list and admit I always loved getting to pick out new clothes and probably just the fashion obsessed in me, but still was always so much fun ;)
    Janine Huldie recently posted…Sunflowers, Back To School & Wonderful Wednesday #88My Profile

  • I always got a new outfit for the first day of school, but my kids don’t. It’s still super hot here, and they don’t really seem to care very much. There was a lot of grumbling about school yesterday, and some tired kids (and mom) today!
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    • Hahaha! You know what we started to do…buy new clothes but not wear them until we were well into September or August. One of the reasons was definitely because they were fall clothes but it was still very hot out.

  • I loved getting new books and school supplies, that was the biggest thrill for me (I think that’s how my obsession started with office supplies!), seeing my friends after the summer break, learning new things. I hated shopping because my mother had to walk into every.single.store only to go back to the first one and buy new clothes for me… that I didn’t like. She kept dressing me in her image and followed it up with a loud negative comment about something I chose. Can you tell I hate shopping even today?
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    • Aw I’m so sorry that happened with your mom. I’m glad it was much better with your father though. I think I loved getting and writing on new notebooks too so I can totally understand the obsession with office supplies :)

  • I hate the lack of sleep. It takes about 1 week and we are all feeling sleep deprived. Wish the older kids could have the later start time because their body clocks have them up late anyway… not to mention the homework after activities.
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    • I should write a list of things I see that everyone else hates. The things you mentioned are definitely what I’ve read on other blogs this week. :) I actually didn’t mind homework sometimes when I was in school. I’m such a nerd, I know. :)

  • I never felt like I fit in. I always did well in school, and I loved my sports, but college was a much better fit for me. My kids seem to have a different experience though, and for that, I am glad.
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    • That is good that they feel differently. Hmmm…I think I loved school up until the end of high school is when it got worse with the fitting in aspect. Those were the best years for me even with me considering college.

  • I loved/love the smell of a new box of crayons and a freshly sharpened pencils, is that weird? Those smells remind me of school. There was always such excitement for the first day of school. I couldn’t wait to learn, be with my friends, and make new ones.
    Now, (as a mommy) the first day of school is bittersweet….
    XOXO
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  • I hated school until high school. Then I loved it. My dad always took me school clothes shopping because my mom and I would just fight the whole time. We haven’t ever been very close either.
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    • Really? I never would have thought that about you and your mom! I definitely understand though. I think hating and loving school is the opposite for me. I loved it up until maybe the last 2 years of high school and a few years in between weren’t so nice. I honestly didn’t love college too much either.

  • I was always excited to go to school back then.. mostly because I can’t wait to be a senior! Lol. And you are so right with fitting in. Not sure if it gets worse now or what. In my opinion, it’s getting worse because I’m hearing a number of crimes committed here in our country just because people want to fit in. So sad that it has to end badly. Getting new stuff is also exciting although that didn’t happen so much when I was in college. I was more laid back back then.

    • Yea fitting in is a bigger deal than we think. Many do it without realizing it sometimes I’m sure even as adults. That’s serious what’s going on in your country. I think the mere fact that I was a senior my last year of high school made that year pretty exciting.

  • Funny because I haven’t been thinking enough about back then, and mostly thinking about right now.
    It was always a big deal for me – these fresh starts. And believe it or not, I used to handle transitions a lot better than now. Like.. a lot.
    Between 8th and 9th grade, I grew seven inches and my perm finally grew out too. That was a good transition.
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    • I think I had a growth spurt from 7th to 8th! So crazy. Well, I can see why most of the bloggers I’m reading are focused on the now…many of your kids are starting school so you all have a lot on your minds. I think I follow like 5 or 6 of you that have kindergartners this year! :)

  • You know…I loved learning, and the new clothes, and the friends! It was always wonderful. As I think about my own children going to school…I love that they are ready and so excited. But, I hate that they are growing and leaving me. I know they will be great, and that I will appreciate the sliver of time I have to myself, but it is so hard to see them leave home. It frightens me how quickly they grow! Thanks for a fun and thoughtful post!
    Elizabeth recently posted…Imperfect and Delectable Brownie Caramel CheesecakeMy Profile

    • I can see how seeing them off to school would remind you of how time is flying and how much bigger they are getting. So many things are that reminder for me when JR does things some days that he’s never done before. :)

  • As a student, I LOVED going back to school–I especially nerded out over new backpacks, binders, and pencils. I also loved getting a fresh new uniform skirt and shirts, even though they looked exactly like the ones I wore the year before (I went to a Catholic school with a really strict dress code).

    As a college professor/ teacher, I had mixed feelings about school starting. I always loved meeting my new students, but I never felt 100% ready with my lesson plans and such. I guess one can’t ever be TOO prepared! :)
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    • I can see how you loved the new uniforms even though they were the same. :) Hats off to you as a professor. I don’t think I would have ever felt prepared each semester to do that either. I loved your post that talked about the lame excuses from your students though. Brought back memories of college and it was just hilarious. :)

  • I always loved the first of the school year because it meant new clothes and new school supplies, getting to be in a new class with new classmates. I definitely didn’t like that the newness wore off after the first week and the drama that always happens would start happening.

    I was always so jealous of this one family we knew who homeschooled. I thought it was so cool that they got to stay together all day and not have to be apart. It’s why I want to homeschool my kids too :)

    • Yes I loved the newness as well! Wow, you knew a family that homeschooled? Very cool. I don’t remember hearing about anyone homeschooling until much later on like when I was maybe in college or even after. Once I had my son though and I learned certain things I didn’t want to do anything else. So cool that you want to homeschool now as well. :)

  • I was never a fan of school for many of the same reasons. I still don’t do drama, of any kind. I never fit in with any of it. I hated not understanding and teachers didn’t make that any easier. Though like you, I didn’t mind most of the learning. I am really glad now that I don’t have to deal with all of the nonsense with the kids, since we started homeschooling. Have a great weekend, Brittnei!

    • Stacey! It’s always so good to see you at my blog! As I am reading your comment, some of your experiences you shared are echoing in my mind and I totally understand where you are coming from. So glad we are both homeschooling our kids. :)

  • THANKFULLY I AM DONE WITH SCHOOL – I finished high school and college awhile ago, and I just FINISHED my masters program this past WEDNESDAY (it’s officially done Sunday). I AM SO EXCITED TO FINALLY BE DONE WITH SCHOOL! Everyone else is going back to school and I am off over here kicking my feet up with a big smile, LOL

  • My brothers and I always got a few new clothes for the start of school but we don’t really do that for my son as an aspect of school starting, we just buy him new things as he needs them. Also, he doesn’t really care about that but I do love the slight smell of fall in the air beginning in August (although those are the days when it starts off so chilly and then is 85 degrees in the afternoon so never know what to wear).
    Just curious – are you closer to your mom now?
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    • Yea that is the interesting thing about the end of a season coming especially a hot one…you have those random hot days, but I definitely remember the chilly mornings and then the hot afternoons when I lived on the east coast, too!

      Hmm….I’ve made peace with my mom over the things that really hurt me growing up. I’m thankful for that closure that I was able to get. But today, we aren’t that close for different reasons I would say. It’s nothing personal. It just is what it is. It’s hard to explain sometimes because I think most people think when you can’t be that close to someone else because of differing beliefs (not just faith) that it means you or they are being judgmental. I think of it as making connections or maintaining them with people because you have certain things in common. I think me and Harroll’s beliefs are such a huge part of who we are and how we live our lives to the point where it has changed what we might have had in common with people back east even family members. We talk to a lot of people and have different levels of connections with them, but really close people typically are ones who believe relatively the same. No one in either of our families believes the same as we do on nearly anything so with that and the distance, I think after being so far after over 2 years, we have just naturally drifted apart from people. I hope this makes sense. :)

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